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20 hours ago, Burgerman said:

Also how hard is it to sleep with the brain on overdrive thinking about the situation, im lucky i know I'll get through it but very worried for a few close mates who have alot of young kids and will be off work for months and are now desperate to find any work. 

One m8 already told me that depression is kicking in and being trapped at home isn't helping, I'm trying to help but it's hard to. Alot of helpline services are swamped and m8s like mine won't call anyway. 

If anyone can help everyone with ideas or activities to help keep the brain stimulated on here would be a nice gesture. 

 

23 minutes ago, Prydzopolis said:

It’s really important that we try to maintain our normal & regular patterns in these times. This includes maintaining our sleeping patterns, eating regularly & looking after ourselves. It’s really easy to let these go out the window when you’ve got no job to wake up for or no real purpose day to day being forced in our homes.

This is all easier said than done, when we are depressed we get stuck. Motivation to get moving is hard, which just makes things real difficult & before you know it you get stuck in a vicious circle where the less you do leads you to unravel and the harder it becomes to break it.

It’s really important that you include exercise in this too if it isn’t already in your regular routine. It’s also vital for your friend who is struggling too, exercise is really important for your mental health. Remember exercise doesn’t have to be a complicated workout, HIIT or a marathon, sometimes it can just be simple. Like a walk around the block or a walk to coffee or bread shop to pick up something. Start small, work your way up.

I saw this on the ABC, hope it may be of some help.

https://mobile.abc.net.au/news/2020-04-02/resilience-strategies-to-deal-with-coronavirus/12111594?pfmredir=sm - Wellbeing and resilience experts share strategies to cope during coronavirus pandemic

Just know Burger, you are not alone. Always feel free to reach out if you ever feel you need it 

Decided to move these here, not for any other reason that it is so easy for this to get lost in the pandemic thread with all the new cases, deaths soaring worldwide wide & just the general craziness of things changing every day.

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interesting video but not sure if it belongs in here of the off topic topic but needless to say isolation can **** with your mind
 

i remember studying the effects of solitary confinement on prisons and it can create mental disorders where none exists even in the most hardened criminals or make existing disorders worse

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apparently in march alone lifeline had 90,000 calls, which is massively up(though i dont know the exact stats) than usually, its been a difficult year for australians

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Stay home, stay safe friends but don’t feel as if you’re isolated and alone

:grouphug:

Always feel like you can reach out here if you need to ❤️

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Unrelated to the above posts: as part of this course I'm doing I need to do a module on sexual consent

I thought, "Yeah whatever, just answer the questions like a normal person and just get it over with".

Nope.

It's extremely mentally taxing and really getting me down

Thankfully I'm able to say that it's not because I have been abused or anything like that.

Some of the modules are very 'what would you do in this situation' and they go on to talk about going back to dorm rooms, kissing, hooking up, getting contraception out, dancing at night clubs, and taking girls home...

From a purely theoretical standpoint, I understand the rationale behind such questions.

For me, I read that and all the times that happened to me at uni (i.e. zero) and all the emotions and all the failures and all the crap that happened in our Singles, Dating, and Relationships Thread... it all floods back.

Not a great feeling unfortunately.

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1 hour ago, Unlimited said:

For me, I read that and all the times that happened to me at uni (i.e. zero) and all the emotions and all the failures and all the crap that happened in our Singles, Dating, and Relationships Thread... it all floods back.

Not a great feeling unfortunately.

Fwiw I thought you were extremely brave to go into the Singles, Dating, and Relationships Thread and bare your soul the way you did. Not too sure I could of put myself up for that. 

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I think most people were very supportive of you in that thread Unlimited and in the end, you didn't even really need the help. You did it by yourself and now you have a wonderful girlfriend. 

TBH, I wouldn't think of anything as a failure. You took a while to come into your own and matured a lot before getting into a serious relationship. I'm sure your relationship is pretty healthy because you were older/more mature and you probably put more effort in to making it work. 

You could have ****ed around during uni and slept with a few girls, but I honestly don't think it would have done anything for you. I would guess what you have with your girlfriend now is a lot more special because you waited until it truly meant something. 

I think you need to frame your thoughts differently. You didn't fail, you learnt what and what not do. You avoided a bunch of bullshit, many STD's and potential unwanted pregnancies.

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Hey.... anyone know some online resources for good coping strategies, rather than say, self harm?

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3 hours ago, Kitto said:

Hey.... anyone know some online resources for good coping strategies, rather than say, self harm?

Headspace, Beyond Blue, The Black Dog Institute.

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3 hours ago, Kitto said:

Hey.... anyone know some online resources for good coping strategies, rather than say, self harm?

Kitto, here is a basic start

If you or anyone you know needs help:

Butterfly Foundation on 1800 33 4673

Lifeline on 13 11 14

Kids Helpline on 1800 551 800

Suicide Call Back Service on 1300 659 467

Beyond Blue on 1300 224 636

Headspace on 1800 650 890

ReachOut at au.reachout.com

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If self harm is front of mind then I suggest you call one of those numbers tonight or urgently get in touch with your GP tomorrow.

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I know the beyond blue website is a good resource. You’re most welcome to use us as a soundboard, is their anything you want to vent, get off your chest or even just get the thoughts out?

I know their are some professionals on here but their are many people are willing to listen & help in which ever way we can 

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7 hours ago, Kitto said:

Hey.... anyone know some online resources for good coping strategies, rather than say, self harm?

Hope things are OK in your world, Kitto.

Please come back and let us know you're OK.

:grouphug::grouphug:

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37 minutes ago, Kitto said:

Yeah I'm alright. 

:good: Hope you have a good weekend - assuming you have weekends to relax, of course! 

:):)

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Mate if self harm is anywhere near your thoughts, and as good as this online stuff is, go to you doctor get a mental health plan and go see a professional 

 

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i am a bit late but hopefully this can be helpful in the future, looking at the mensline website it does have a lot of different resources, have not actually read any of the resources yet because right now i dont need them but still worth talking about because it might be helpful

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On 29/05/2020 at 4:14 PM, Kitto said:

Hey.... anyone know some online resources for good coping strategies, rather than say, self harm?

@Kitto, how are things going brother?

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On 04/06/2020 at 9:37 PM, Prydzopolis said:

@Kitto, how are things going brother?

Slowly gathering up the courage to talk to the gp. And trying to find the time, I've been so busy. 

 

Getting better I guess! 

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Good to hear you are OK, Kitto, although you sound a bit hesitant.

I hope you do go further, to talk to your GP though.  :)

 

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Yeah mate, talking to the GP is a really good step, I can only encourage you to do it as soon as you can. It will open up a different range of positive things you can do. They'll be matter of fact about it, no judgement - you fill out the form and they'll tell you what it looks like and then take you through what you can do next. Then it's like anything else... some things won't work, some things will, but when you are in that process, you know that every step is a step forward (even if it doesn't always feel like it).

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9 hours ago, Kitto said:

Slowly gathering up the courage to talk to the gp. And trying to find the time, I've been so busy. 

 

Getting better I guess! 

Mate go do it, I'm struggling to think of anything more important that your own health. If you have a good GP it helps. They should hopefully then be able to put you on a path . It can be a long road though. @marron is spot on as usual 

 

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On 06/06/2020 at 9:07 PM, Cynth said:

Wise bunch here Kitto. 
 

I would listen to them if I were you. :)

 

Of course they are wise, they wear the red and black :) (oh, and red and white on away days!)

 

My wife tried to make a doctor's appointment for me through their app for a somewhat unrelated matter on Friday, but I told her I'd do it.. she was a bit stubborn so I had to explain a bit of what was going on (mental health appointments can't be made through the app since there is paperwork I need to pre-fill out apparently). She was very supportive.

Unfortunately her mum is in hospital (she's ok) and I don't really want to be a burden on her when she has other things to worry about. 

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56 minutes ago, Kitto said:

 

Of course they are wise, they wear the red and black :) (oh, and red and white on away days!)

 

My wife tried to make a doctor's appointment for me through their app for a somewhat unrelated matter on Friday, but I told her I'd do it.. she was a bit stubborn so I had to explain a bit of what was going on (mental health appointments can't be made through the app since there is paperwork I need to pre-fill out apparently). She was very supportive.

Unfortunately her mum is in hospital (she's ok) and I don't really want to be a burden on her when she has other things to worry about. 

A little long weekend pick me up for ya dude!  

 

 

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59 minutes ago, Kitto said:

 

Of course they are wise, they wear the red and black :) (oh, and red and white on away days!)

 

My wife tried to make a doctor's appointment for me through their app for a somewhat unrelated matter on Friday, but I told her I'd do it.. she was a bit stubborn so I had to explain a bit of what was going on (mental health appointments can't be made through the app since there is paperwork I need to pre-fill out apparently). She was very supportive.

Unfortunately her mum is in hospital (she's ok) and I don't really want to be a burden on her when she has other things to worry about. 

When I had my episode, I just made an appointment and the first the doctor knew of what the problem was was when he asked and I told him. I don't recall paperwork being an issue. He just started the process, asked questions, filled out a form, issued a referral (and phoned to make the first appointment), issued a scrip.

Just do it, make an appointment, rock up and start looking after yourself.

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On 06/06/2020 at 11:18 AM, Kitto said:

Slowly gathering up the courage to talk to the gp. And trying to find the time, I've been so busy. 

 

Getting better I guess! 

Fantastic Kitto, small steps :good:

Try to see a GP you’ve seen before, one you know, as with all things their are good & bad GP’s. Good idea making a separate appointment as they can give you a longer appointment rather trying to rush it in 15 minutes.

Don't forget you’ve got us if you ever need to use us as a soundboard, we are here for you brother

:grouphug: 

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11 hours ago, Kitto said:

 

She was very supportive.

 I don't really want to be a burden on her when she has other things to worry about. 

Don't take this the wrong way Kitto, cos I mean it with the best intentions, but I'm going to  be blunt :)

Having a loved one who is struggling when you have no idea what is going on or why they are struggling is a BIGGER burden, than having a loved one who can to tell you their problemis but still respect that sometimes you'll need some space and therefore they're not expecting you to fix it. 

Seriously I think it's one of the biggest mistakes that people - often blokes, but, we don't dominate this 100% by any means - make. "I gotta deal with this myself because my friends have their own **** going on". Yeah. Everyone has **** going on. Everyone! So the more we share, the less the burden, because the trust and respect is there. (this is not meant to be any sort of comment on your relationship or whatever - it's mroe the opposite - I look at those two sentences up there above, and man you're there already, that's all. She's supportive. No need to think about it in those burden terms!

 

 

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