Mental Health Thread 2

[mack]

The moment you start chasing people you call friends they just get resentful and sick of you. Better to let them fade away rather than piss them off. If they actually give a **** they'll get in touch with you.

[Neverbloom]

8 minutes ago, mack said:

The moment you start chasing people you call friends they just get resentful and sick of you. Better to let them fade away rather than piss them off. If they actually give a **** they'll get in touch with you.

very good advice i agree, i just need to grow up and start making new friends, pointless having people in your life who simply dont give a ****, i have joined a few meet up groups now i just have to follow up and forget the past

those 2 last things are what i suck at but i am getting better at them i guess

[Smoggy]

On 2/21/2018 at 11:12 PM, GoatyMcGoatFace said:

very good advice i agree, i just need to grow up and start making new friends, pointless having people in your life who simply dont give a ****, i have joined a few meet up groups now i just have to follow up and forget the past

those 2 last things are what i suck at but i am getting better at them i guess

That's the spirit Goaty, already well ahead of where I am with that kind of thing. You will get there because it seems to me like you know how to, event if you might not think you do. It seems to me like you are doing the right things or at least trying to and also asking the right questions. Keep on keeping on because I think it is only a matter of time before things improve for you.

Edited February 27, 2018 by WSWBoro

[wendybr]

On 21/2/2018 at 11:12 PM, GoatyMcGoatFace said:

very good advice i agree,  i just have to follow up and forget the past
 

I recently saw a poster which read

" DON'T LET YESTERDAY

TAKE UP

TOO MUCH OF TODAY"

Easier said than done in some circumstances...but a very good message to work on I think.

[Smoggy]

20 minutes ago, wendybr said:

I recently saw a poster which read

" DON'T LET YESTERDAY

TAKE UP

TOO MUCH OF TODAY"

Easier said than done in some circumstances...but a very good message to work on I think.

Unless you are Paul McCartney, the only person who longs for yesterday.

[EmMac]

My sister often says of stuff that is needlessly worrying you or people who aren't worth time worrying about, "Dont let them take up real estate in your head"

I've always liked that one.  Its logical and to the point

[sonar]

30 minutes ago, EmMac said:

My sister often says of stuff that is needlessly worrying you or people who aren't worth time worrying about, "Dont let them take up real estate in your head"

I've always liked that one.  Its logical and to the point

Unfortunately for some ,especially when it comes down to people you have to work with, they have to cope with high density developers..........lol

Edited February 28, 2018 by sonar

[Smoggy]

Absolutely 100% this article - http://www.bbc.com/future/story/20180228-there-are-benefits-to-being-antisocial-or-a-loner

The benefits of being a loner lol Especially from the creative side and all that. I want to get shot of my depression and anxiety, but I don't want to change who I am, I will never crave social interaction.

One key benefit is improved creativity. Gregory Feist, who focuses on the psychology of creativity at California’s San Jose State University, has defined creativity as thinking or activity with two key elements: originality and usefulness. He has found that personality traits commonly associated with creativity are openness (receptiveness to new thoughts and experiences), self-efficacy (confidence), and autonomy (independence) – which may include “a lack of concern for social norms” and “a preference for being alone”. In fact, Feist’s research on both artists and scientists shows that one of the most prominent features of creative folks is their lesser interest in socialising. One reason for this is that such people are likely to spend sustained time alone working on their craft. Plus, Feist says, many artists “are trying to make sense of their internal world and a lot of internal personal experiences that they’re trying to give expression to and meaning to through their art.” Solitude allows for the reflection and observation necessary for that creative process.

 

[Neverbloom]

i would say i am creative musically i just have zero way to get that out, its amazing how much my passion has eroded recently and i am not just talking about the wanderers but talking about everything there is just no passion there for anything and that is very different to how i used to be but maybe its a good thing

[Neverbloom]

this isnt about anyone here but its amazing how many people will run towards you the moment they get help but as soon as you need help they pull a houdini, i have seen people run faster than ******* bolt the moment i want help, i guess trying to rely on people is a ******* stupid idea tbh since people are only out for themselves usually or maybe i just know **** people

[wendybr]

You know you can share here with us collectively, Goat...or individually in a few instances.

Sometimes people just don't know how to offer support, or if what they are offering is useful,  or the right support.  

And so they might step back.

Some people might be grappling with so many issues of their own that they might not have the strength to offer their energies to others.

You know who you can  approach here for some advice or a helping hand.

Take care!

 

 

[Prydzopolis]

On 12/03/2018 at 10:33 PM, GoatyMcGoatFace said:

no passion there for anything and that is very different to how i used to be but maybe its a good thing

No passion or no interest in the things you liked before? Or is it a change of interests?

Why is it a good thing?

In regards to your second post, I think Wendy has pretty much said exactly what I would say: I would add that you always know there are people that you can reach out to on here if you ever need anything even just posting in this thread if you need it  

[Neverbloom]

thank you for all the help, the truth is i have zero friends so while i have this forum i have no one i talk to every day like i used to, no one i can talk to about anything like i used to be able to, its just me in a isolating area with my shitty thoughts forever till i die, at least i am not afraid of death i mean i got **** all to live for so i got nothing to lose

i have zero interests in the things i used to be passionate about, i still enjoy video games but i dont have the passion i had for them i just play them because they kill time, its a good thing because not caring can be much better than pain, i still have music i like but that music tends to be depressing as ****, i had a former friend around christmas time telling me that she blocks all messages around that time because she doesnt want to get invited to christmas work parties and such how ******* stupid does she think i am

 

i know i can rely on a number of people on this forum but i do miss having groups of friends where we would hang out, play video games and just have a good time, while i am not even considering a relationship because its simply not going to happen i need to get my ******* head sorted before i even consider but i do miss that too, people cant be friends for me for very long and i dont blame them i am ******* exhausting but i cant magically get rid of my mental health problems and if life is just going to be this forever then what is the point

i know i have posted this song but i actually got a concert coming up but its full of songs like this
 

if you dont want to listen to it, its super depressing sounding, at least the concert forces me to go out but there has only been a few times in my life where i felt alright for a decent amount of time and the times where i felt good are long gone

[Prydzopolis]

12 hours ago, GoatyMcGoatFace said:

have no one i talk to every day like i used to

I remember you were saying that you were going to different sort of hobby groups that you would be able to meet new people, is that right? Or did you say you were thinking of it?

How did it go? Would be a great place to meet new people & start friendships with people that have a similar interest or passion.

12 hours ago, GoatyMcGoatFace said:

no one i can talk to about anything like i used to be able to, its just me in a isolating area

You’re going through a big change, altering your behavior to get your head right & maybe that’s affected things? I can only see positives of meeting new friends with the new you

12 hours ago, GoatyMcGoatFace said:

need to get my ******* head sorted before i even consider but i do miss that too,

How is getting your head right? Last time you updated us, it sounded like things were tough but you were going in the right direction. 

[Valter43]

Been sober since New Year and I'm loving it. I still go out regularly with friends but when I'm in the pub I have no urge whatsoever to go up and have just one or two drinks. My only weakness is that ******* bottle of Slovenian rakija sitting in the liquor cabinet at my house that stares me down whenever I walk past...oh boy that takes some restraint

I'd highly recommend going sober for a month or two. Really amazing what it does for your mental well-being.

[sonar]

50 minutes ago, Valter43 said:

Been sober since New Year and I'm loving it. I still go out regularly with friends but when I'm in the pub I have no urge whatsoever to go up and have just one or two drinks. My only weakness is that ******* bottle of Slovenian rakija sitting in the liquor cabinet at my house that stares me down whenever I walk past...oh boy that takes some restraint

I'd highly recommend going sober for a month or two. Really amazing what it does for your mental well-being.

I rarely drink at all these days and find I don't miss alcohol at all. I was a pub regular when I was younger,,,,lol, but gradually over the ensuing years have drunk less and less .Also my dad has medical issues which means he doesn't drive and has to rely on others to get around for shopping,medical appointments.....etc. I found that having to not drink so I can drive him whenever or wherever is actually easier after a while. I can make a six pack last a year.....lol I have nothing against friends or anyone having a drink so I'm not one of those "born again" anti alcohol types, it just so happens that not drinking suits the circumstances. 

On the plus side you save money and get no hangovers either.........lol

[Valter43]

Been feeling very good about myself over the last few months; lost a lot of weight and going to the gym very frequently now too but headspace still needs to be cleared up so I decided to try out some basic breathing meditation stuff. However the day that I started, telstra sends me a $500 dollar bill for charges that aren't supposed to be applied to me, and the hours on the phone with their useless operators stressed me out so much and the issue still isn't properly resolved, so I will have to deal with it again today. Straw that broke the camels back I think. Could definitely not sit still and meditate.

Shits difficult. Needed to vent a little bit. When I move out in a few months time im hoping the whole life thing will get easier. 

[Prydzopolis]

A big shout out to my WSF family, make sure you ask those close to you R U OK? Hope you are all well.

I have posted this on Facebook and Twitter but I thought I’d share it on here too. There is s fantastic series of talks on heads and migraines called the Migraine World Summit. It can be found here at https://www.migraineworldsummit.com/

They show 4-5 number of online talks (accessed within 24 hours anytime each day) over a week. Some great information in terms of education, treatments, information, future treatments and breakthroughs in the field. All you need to do is register and you’ll get sent the links to the talks for each day. Fantastic initiative.

First session starts late Wednesday evening (9am New York 18/4/18).

[wendybr]

Hope it helps you Prydz!

It sounds interesting, and I'll pass it on to someone I know who might benefit.

 

 

[Edinburgh]

This thread's been a bit quiet of late which I hope indicates people are well, like Valter's post above..  But I know from comments on here that's not always how it works [especially after my own "episode" just before Xmas damaged my supposed "immunity" from the type of problems suffered and shared by others on here].

So partly prompted by Prydz's post above and me wondering and concerned about the lack of posts anywhere by Boro in recent weeks - a question for all the thread participants - R U OK?

Boro I see you are now Smoggy - what's that all about - a bit of Dr Who re-incarnation?  And how are the sketches going and where do you keep them all - in the Tardis?  

I hope you are recovering well from your surgery.

Your lack of posts suggests to me you're doing it tough just now.  As Prydz and others often say to those struggling, remember we on WSF are hear for you.

You and I haven't met but if a bit of your old man's 'eccentricity' will help at least I'm the same age!  Or I could colour in some of your sketches as long as you number them so I know what colour to use!  And by the way - it only took me 10 minutes to buy new undies!!!

[JackDoff]

Pops, it took you 10 minutes to buy Y fronts???  

nah , I think Smoggy is a new forumite , he/she whatever,  seems alright........not like Boro who was a right cu....

 

Big Fella! get back in here , we need to see more artwork!!!  I don't get enough "Kulcha" !!! ....unless watching Euro por.... er , porcini gatherers  is culture!

 

[wendybr]

Well those two posts both made me laugh - Ed's on fire today!

He needs to give Carns lessons on how to avoid Grumpy Old Man syndrome ( a reference to a conversation on another thread - sorry Carns )

Re people being quiet - I've been a bit worried about you, Jack,  as a matter of fact - you've been far too quiet on the forums.

Our resident smart arses disappearing... and the lols slow up.

PS Maybe you have visited the PUN Thread Jack - I'm not sure ...but your absence over there was recently lamented by Ed - who also made reference to a "jack-strap"...in case you missed it.

PPS Hope we are all travelling OK, and if we aren't, we should know were to come for a helping hand...or even a bit of a laugh.

PPS Hope you're doing OK Prydz, when you next visit...I know you have had a bit of a rough time of it lately - but there no one here more caring, and more deserving of better times ahead.

PPPS As for Smoggy's name change... well .........I guess we'll get used to it.

As long as he shares his stories and his talents as an artist, we won't care what he calls himself!

Love you guys! 

[Edinburgh]

Jack, y fronts? Que? It took me  10 minutes to find enough of my size!!!!!

[thefairy]

Its been awhile since I posted here. 

WSF not as like it used to be to be honest. But this forum is still a place for me to vent or 'let my hair down'.

Alot of lovely people still around but many have left or don't appear as much. Especially with all the crap we have to deal with in the past 2 years. I understand why.

But hey. This year has been good for me. Its nearly a year and we are so close to 'business as usual'.

My son is healthy now and growing up so fast, he will be going to games next season.

I just started a new job. And our house will be all new once we move back home.

Mentally it is still tough but like I always tell myself. Keep on moving forward. Things are looking up.

[sonar]

11 minutes ago, thefairy said:

Its been awhile since I posted here. 

WSF not as like it used to be to be honest. But this forum is still a place for me to vent or 'let my hair down'.

Alot of lovely people still around but many have left or don't appear as much. Especially with all the crap we have to deal with in the past 2 years. I understand why.

But hey. This year has been good for me. Its nearly a year and we are so close to 'business as usual'.

My son is healthy now and growing up so fast, he will be going to games next season.

I just started a new job. And our house will be all new once we move back home.

Mentally it is still tough but like I always tell myself. Keep on moving forward. Things are looking up.

Mate, your son and his health is way more important than worrying about a football team and it;s esults. Glad to hear fairy jnr is thriving. Considering the dire straights he was in a remarkable turnaround. All the best.

Edited April 19, 2018 by sonar

[wendybr]

Yes...it's wonderful to hear what a turn around you and your family have experienced, Fairy. 

 

[EmMac]

Boro is Smoggy? There goes my theory he's the Scarlett Pimpernel.......

They seek him here, they seek him there
Those forumites seek him everywhere

Where have ya been recently. We've missed you!

Ps. Do not let Edinburgh colour in your drawings. He will eat the crayons

 

[Edinburgh]

11 minutes ago, EmMac said:

Boro is Smoggy? There goes my theory he's the Scarlett Pimpernel.......

They seek him here, they seek him there
Those forumites seek him everywhere

Where have ya been recently. We've missed you!

Ps. Do not let Edinburgh colour in your drawings. He will eat the crayons

 

Only the red ones.

[JackDoff]

2 hours ago, Edinburgh said:

Jack, y fronts? Que? It took me  10 minutes to find enough of my size!!!!!

Your SIZE , Pops???  Are you boasting? Do we call you Mr Ed now???    

[Neverbloom]

1 hour ago, EmMac said:

Boro is Smoggy? There goes my theory he's the Scarlett Pimpernel.......

They seek him here, they seek him there
Those forumites seek him everywhere

Where have ya been recently. We've missed you!

Ps. Do not let Edinburgh colour in your drawings. He will eat the crayons